Happiness Enabler: Catching Up with Friends

I’m terrible at staying in touch with people. Like really bad at it. I don’t mean to be, but life seems to always get in the way. My time is divided into marriage, parenting and work. Things that fall outside those three buckets tend to get neglected, including me time.

And sadly, me time means friend time.

Now, I know that you’re thinking. Self care is crucial to happiness. And you’re absolutely right. Yet here I am admitting that I fail when it comes to self-care. I try. But I fail.

This is me saying that if we’ve fallen out of touch, it’s not you, it’s me. Really.

These relationships I neglect, they are the ones that have shaped me.
They are the ones who have pushed me all these years.
They helped create this person I am today.
I love these people.
I miss these people.
And I think about these people almost daily.
They are my closest friends and I’d drop everything if they needed me.

And yet I don’t pick up the phone and reach out. Why? Because I don’t prioritize my needs like I should.

In the past week I’ve had the immense pleasure of catching up with two people who are probably among the most influential in my journey. Both conversations quickly fell into a natural ease, like no time had passed. And both left me energized about life.

Humans feed off of relationships. They fuel our energy–inspiring confidence, empowering authenticity, instilling optimism and purpose. Relationships push us beyond ourselves, into a world of curiosity, of hope, of possibility.

I am extremely blessed to have had such inspiring friendships throughout my life. I’m even more blessed that I married into a tight-knit group of equally amazing and inspiring people. My network of family, friends, coworkers and classmates keeps me excited about all the possibilities for my life, for my impact and for my purpose in this world.

Also, they remind me to be better about phone calls. Because those phone calls–whether only a few joyous minutes or hours of laughter and conversation–enable me to be me. And that enables my happiness.

So expect a call soon. Really. And please keep inspiring me with your beauty and amazingness and purpose and hope. Keep being you so I can keep being me.

With love,
Jessica

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